Sunday, July 26, 2015

The Meaning Of Surrender, Sunday Service



I do not resist, I surrender. I easily accept what is and am free in this moment. In surrender I am connected with the source energy of Being. Through surrender I choose inner freedom and inner peace. And so it is.

The Meaning Of Surrender, Sunday Service

Thursday, July 23, 2015

The Meaning of Surrender

Eckhart Tolle writes: "To some people surrender may have negative connotations, implying defeat, giving up, failing to rise to challenges, and so on. True surrender, however, is something entirely different. It does not mean to passively put up with whatever situation you find yourself in and to do nothing about it.  Nor does it mean to cease making plans or initiating positive action.
 Surrender is the simple but profound wisdom of yielding to rather than opposing the flow of life."

Surrender means to accept the present moment unconditionally! It means to release inner resistance to what is! It reminds me of Desiderata by Max Ehrmann.




That certainly changes the concept of surrender for me.

How many times have I thought that something was amiss, wrong, unacceptable? I must admit the answer is often. The most recent example is my mother's health. Of course, I don't want my mother to be in pain, but there has been a lot of resistance in me this year to the actuality of my mother's health. It isn't that I fear death. I absolutely believe that we each will experience another dimension to life when we leave this plane of existence. However, there seems to be much more than I had ever conceived between being fully independent and being fully dependent prior to death.

This past winter and spring my mom was hospitalized for high blood pressure and lack of strength. We came to find out that she had likely had a small stroke. Her mind still is quite clear although she sometimes has difficulty articulating what she is thinking. She had no appetite and could not feed herself. She weighed less than 60 pounds! My sister and i thought she would not be able to survive in such a fragile condition.

However, she has survived! I am deeply grateful. She now is ravenous and eats everything that she is fed.  I think she is content. (She has never been great about directly sharing her feelings.) She does snot complain about much. (One day when the outside temperature was 85 degrees, I left the fan on and she complained that "she nearly froze.")

I believe Mom is living as fully in the now as she can. For the most part, she has surrendered to what is. The lack of surrender is in her children , at least this one.  I am working on myself to allow the universe to unfold as it is.
 Mom's 90th Birthday
Left to right top me, Kathy Hoiness
Bottom  Gerry Clark, Lela Clark,John Clark

               

Sunday, July 19, 2015

Enlightened Relationships, Sunday Service




I am open and honest with myself and my partner. I do not judge. I accept others and myself, as we are. I am aware of what I am feeling. As I accept the present moment fully, I am at ease with myself, and create a space for love, joy and peace to enter. Love is a state of Being. I am a state of Being. And so it is!

Enlightened Relationships, Sunday Service

Friday, July 17, 2015

Conscious Relationships

Relationships...there are many kinds.
It seems that I am not too good at the intimate variety based on my history. I have been married and divorced three times. I haven't had many relationships between, or even dates as a matter of fact.
However, Ernest Holmes reminds us: "Principle is not bound by precedent."
What does that famous quote mean?  It means that the Divine Principle of the Creative Process does not depend upon what has happened in the past. Rather it is forever making all things new, according to our thoughts. That is the rub!


We learn from the Bible that "..you can't put new wine into old wine-skins."
In order to have  anew kind of relationship, I need to be willing to have a beginners mind about relationships. I cannot let my past become my future.

What kind of relationship would I like to have? I would like a compassionate, honest, caring, tender meeting of the minds. When I was in Edmonton recently I visited with an old friend whom I hadn't seen in over 8 years. We both look different but I think we still both have the essential nature that drew us together as friends in the first place. She has a great sense-of-humor and is very friendly to everyone. She fearlessly tells the truth no matter what the circumstances.

She told me of a recent trip to Mexico. She was having dental work done so was there for a couple of weeks. One night she went to her favorite seafood restaurant. There was a noisy man from Alberta, her province. This man sounded like a know-it-all rich oil man. He had ordered  a steak and was complaining loudly that it was tough. My friend told me that she said, "Well, why would you order a steak at a seafood restaurant? I'm having the shrimp and it is delicious!" The man ordered the shrimp and my friend said, "And by the way, you are going to pay for that steak, too. These servers should not have to pay for your lack of intelligence!" He did pay. The servers thanked her.

Now the reason my friend can get away with such "rude" behavior is that she does everything in a playful-like-a-puppy manner.  She has many, many friends. She is planning her retirement thousands of miles away from her current community. When asked if she won't miss her friends, she simply states that she will make new ones.

That kind of confidence goes a long way in creating conscious relationships.

I am blessed to have many caring, forgiving friends, to. I know when we are together, I am heard and seen. Recently we attended  Motown the Musical as part of our Gourmets for God program. This is a picture of some of my friends.
June Dickson, Doris Palardy, Diane Hennessy, Rev. Judee Chapman