Sunday, October 23, 2016

Created To Be Happy, Purposeful and Enthusiastic, Sunday Service

I am uplifted, sustained and supported by a Power greater than I am. As I surrender to the Power and Presence within me I am transformed and filled with ideas for a world that supports unity among all life. I show up, I step up, and I do what is now in front of me to do. And So It Is!

Created To Be Happy, Purposeful and Enthusiastic, Sunday Service

Friday, October 21, 2016

Life is Not a Spectator Sport!

Brene Brown begins her book Daring Greatly with the following passage from  Theodore Roosevelt's speech "Citizenship in a Republic":
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done better.
The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause;
who at best knows in the end the triumph  of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly..."
 A few paragraphs later Brown writes: "When we spend our lives waiting until we're perfect or bulletproof before we walk into an arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn out backs on our gifts, those unique contributions only we can make."
When I first read these words from Brene Brown, I was reminded of something I learned long ago and I have practiced imperfectly ever since. That is, life is NOT a spectator sport. Life is to be lived fully. It is a gift to savor and even when one discovers that she has been travelling in the wrong direction, it is about fully participating in your own life! No one else can live our lives for us. No one else's judgment is important to us. What really matters is to be in integrity with oneself.

When you make the decision to fully participate in your life there will be times when nobody agrees with you, when you feel abandoned and unsupported, when you want to crawl under the blankets and let someone else do it. It is not easy but it is completely rewarding.

When we were sorting through my mother's things we found her acknowledgement of what commitments she had made to herself at at course called The Wall. She wrote: "I commit to trust. I commit to participate fully.I commit to tell the truth."  Many of the participants of The Wall made similar commitments to themselves but it was really moving to see the words written by my mother.

Of course, when I was a child, I thought my mother was very confident, skillful and capable. She acted as if she were ten feet tall and bulletproof. As far as I could see, she did fully participate. She was worthy matron of the Order of the Eastern Star, she was the superintendent of our church Sunday School, she has active in Parent-Teacher activities. When she and my dad wintered in Mesa, Arizona, they had an active social life. Mom won a whole room-full of trophies for shuffleboard and she loved to design costumes for the annual parade. She was creative and full of life!

Now thinking back that this confident woman had taken this course when she was in her 70's and had committed to new behaviors of trust, participation and truth-telling, I realize that she too had insecurities and self-doubts. And she also was willing to change her current paradigm.

I am still learning from you -- Lela Clark; I see that you did dare greatly!
Lela Clark dressed in her Sno Bird Costume riding her bike

Friday, October 14, 2016

Unexpected Good

Many years ago our spiritual center gave away an "Expect a Miracle" pin. It raised questions about how could something that was expected be called  a miracle and if you expected it then it wasn't unexpected. What was it then? An ordinary?

I believe what those pins did was to make us aware of the good that is constantly around us. 

If good is already around us, why do we see it so infrequently?

I think there are several answers to that question.

First, you may not be vibrating or resonating at the frequency of good. For instance if you have a grievance against a neighbor, you may be blocking your good.

Recently a friend, whom I will call Sharon told me a wonderful story of forgiveness, cleaning things up and acceptance of prosperity. One evening after a trash pick-up day, she noticed tat her trash bin was up beside her door, not down on the street where she had left it that morning. She had not spoken to her neighbors for several years because they had had disagreements about their children playing drums at night. Now the drum player has long ago left home, but still there was friction between Sharon and her neighbors. On impulse, she went up to her neighbor to thank them for moving her trash can up closer to her home. The man answered he door loudly declaring that he would never touch anything of hers. Just then his wife came up, pushed him aside and thanked my friend for thanking her. They had a lovely thirty- minute conversation. A healing had taken place.

The next day, a prospective buyer came to look at my Sharon's home. While her realtor was showing her husband a different part of the house, Sharon complimented the woman on a unique pair of  antique gold earrings that she was wearing. The woman, a complete stranger until 10 minutes earlier, took them off and gave them to Sharon as  a gift.

I believe the two incidents are related. We live in a conscious mind that is universal, everywhere present. When we have something big or small against anyone, the possible and even probable good that might have been ours has no way to get to us.

On page 299 of  The Science of Mind, Ernest Holmes writes:
"From selfish reasons alone, if from no loftier reason, we cannot afford to find fault, to hate, or even to hold in mind anything against any living soul! The God of love cannot hear the prayer of the one who fails to love."
Another reason you may not be seeing more good could be you have not been clear about what you consider "good." For instance if you are more fascinated about what is going wrong than with expanded good, the Universe doe not have a clear order to fill. Is your television on a great portion of the time? Are you tuned in to sensationalism? The Universe can only give you what you want. It can't give you what you do not want. The Universe cannot read the word "not." 

This is a good day to let the past be past. Make amends. Be thankful for all the good in your life right now. Be thankful for your neighbors and watch the Universe say yes to you. Today is the best time to start.
Start Today to Let the Good In

Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Consciousness Through Breast cancer Awareness

Please keep this Essential in mind as you read on…in all of Life…

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Perhaps…One of the greatest difficulties in Life is facing one's own mortality. The incidence of Breast cancer, as well as, Living with Breast cancer, and the uncertainty of it’s outcome can be a time of emotional, physical, and Spiritual upheaval in one's life. Such was my experience and expression with a diagnosis of Breast cancer in October 2005...ringing in Breast cancer Awareness month for me in some new and different ways.

It is often said that with great difficulties comes personal growth. Cancer free for 11 years now...and feeling, as well as looking, in my opinion, better than ever, that personal growth through difficulty has served me well.

This personal growth and strength can also bring a sense of accomplishment: “I made it, I finished my chemotherapy and radiation treatments and I am here to talk about it.” You reflect on what you have learned. I sure did!  The Breast cancer experience brought me to another place that I just had not encountered in normal everyday life. It is an experience that stands alone and is set apart from everything else that has ever happened to me. we are, again, in Breast cancer Awareness month...and I speak to my sisterhood (and brotherhood) of Breast cancer survivors/Thrivors...

Often others will say how much they admire you for the strength you showed in coping with Breast cancer. Accept and be proud of not only getting through breast cancer treatments but also for the Wisdom the experience has taught You. You are now in a position to give back and it will feel good. You can choose to Empower others, share what worked for you during your Breast cancer treatment, and offer encouragement to someone who has been newly diagnosed. Empowerment knows that no matter what situation you are in that there is always something positive you can do.

Given choices…No one chooses to grow by facing Life's difficulties… but this is how Empowerment begins… and together with personal growth You emerge as a person with Courage, Empowered to BE Your True Self.

Feeling Empowered is subjective… and varies from individual to individual.  But the Universal Truth of Empowerment comes from the knowledge that You have options and control over Your choices… the ability to make those choices… and the responsibility for the choices You make.

Empowerment is that feeling and conviction that comes from having gone through a difficult situation and made it. Capturing your “new normal” is taking that newly Empowered Self… and using IT to form a new and improved YOU. The way you viewed yourself in the world and how you filled your days prior to having Breast cancer will take on new meaning. Your perspective may not change at all… but for most women (as well as men) living with Breast cancer, the experience enriches their Lives and takes Life down a new path.   Finding Empowerment no matter what stage of Breast cancer treatment You are in…regardless of what season of Life You are experiencing… is about using it to create a “new normal” for YourSelf.

As a significant aside, please know that…Women are natural attractors. Yet due to cultural programming, many women have lost their way, and we end up approaching work like a man. The masculine program is all about goal-setting and goal-getting; this rarely works for women in the long-term. Instead, women must fill our cup first with what makes us come alive, and be immersed in a community of support, adventure, and inspiration. And then, we blossom...and attract!

The Dalai Lama said that the world will be saved by Western Women.  I happen to think he was right.

As a coach who has worked closely with women for over 2 decades, I find that deep-down, women naturally desire to create work that makes a difference in the world. The most important thing we can do is to discover and pursue work we Love. This is essential for our Happiness…for our Health and Well-BEING!

Human nature for many reasons focuses on living. People are busy making plans, setting financial goals, establishing career moves, building a family life, and not dwelling on the end. Often much time is wasted on unimportant things that are valued at that moment or time in your Life. Having Breast cancer brings  mortality to the forefront. What your beliefs have been before now may be questioned as the reality sets in that our Life on earth is only temporary.

Life is meant to be Lived. You are a unique partner in Life… with Purpose and Meaning to your existence! So… Why not Live it with a participatory viewpoint?  I Truly Believe…It is, perhaps, easier to prioritize the important things, experiences, and people in your Life when you have dealt firsthand difficulty, challenge, and struggle...with dis-ease...with Breast cancer. You can choose to waste less time or waste more time. Spend less time at non-Purpose and non-Meaning work  and experiences…and more time enjoying Your family and friends, Nature…and that which Truly Makes your Tail Wag!

Here’s yet another Essential to ponder…
Living with the end in mind is one way to participate in your Life with a Zest, Awareness, and Appreciation that may go unnoticed prior to having Breast cancer. Being diagnosed with Breast cancer is not a gift in itself, but the Wisdom that comes from the experience is a gift that can enrich and fulfill your life.  Trust and Believe…I know…as I often referred to my own diagnosis of Breast cancer as…”Not the best news, but not the worse news either”!  Life is meant to be Lived with the thought that… Life is not a dress rehearsal — Life is a priceless gift meant to BE embraced….and, yes…The Show must go on!

Once you have come face to face with Your mortality, then you can truly Live. Well...that's one way...anyway.
In that Spirit, Debbie Mazza-Taylor, who lost her five-year experience with Breast cancer just days before her forty-first birthday, wrote this poem:

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind?
And to melt into the sun.  And what is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath From its restless tides, that it may rise and expand Seeking God unencumbered?
Only when you drink from the river of silence Shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountaintop Then you shall begin to climb.
And when earth shall claim your limbs, Then shall you truly dance.

And So IT IS…Now!!!
To Our Health, Well-BEING, and Empowerment Together!
Much Love & GOD’s Blessings!

PS: Today will bring you a new awareness, a lesson or a manifestation that you are making progress – IF YOU KNOW IT!  No matter how large or small, please recognize it and be Grateful. Hey…It only takes a moment to pick up the penny… and IT will AUTOMATICALLY put you in the Flow of Positive Energy and Goodness.
"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire." -Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself
Rhonda Maria Farrah, MA, DRWA
Help Me Rhonda Now! International

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The Art of Feminine Presence

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How To Forgive, Live & LOVE During The Process of Divorce...
A Journey In Healing & Transformation

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