It is Your Fault But You are Not to Blame

Resting my Sunburned Feet

For the month of May we will be exploring the theme "Spiritual Guidance and Personal Responsibility." This theme contains two of the most important principles of the Science of Mind. First, that we believe every person can be a revealer of truth. To me that means that we can, and do, directly connect with Source and It can, and does, guide and direct us. Secondly, that our experiences do not come to us , but rather come through us.

Each one of us has an inner guidance system. This system is always guiding us. It always knows what is  our highest and best good. Sometimes it speaks quietly so that you have to be still to hear it and at other times it screams so loudly that we can not ignore it. 

Over time I have come to be thankful for and expectant of Its guidance. There were many years that I didn't believe in It and could not hear It.  On a recent trip to Costa Rica, I had a private two-hour ride to the resort from the airport. I was guided to ask my driver for Spanish lessons. He was delighted to teach me. It made my trip fly by and gave Roberto, my driver, an opportunity to be in service. Guidance can be a simple idea like that or a feeling of "not going in the right direction." By the way, I also ignored my personal guidance to get out of the sun in Coasta Rica. Hence, sore, swollen, sunburned feet!

The second part is personal responsibility. In the past, I felt that personal responsibility was heavy and unpleasant. The words felt heavy and burdensome. But after studying the Science of Mind, I had a new idea about it. I realized that if everything came through my consciousness and absolutely no other way, then in order to change my life, I simply needed to change my deep beliefs. What a sense of joy and freedom it has given me! I am not a victim any longer. I accept everything in my life exactly as it is and as it is not. "I once was blind, but now I see."

Shakespeare penned these words in the play Julius Caesar, spoken by Cassius, one of the men opposed to Julius Caesar becoming a monarch:

 "The fault, dear Brutus, is not in the stars, but in ourselves."

If one thinks he is doomed to a certain life, he will be. If he thinks that he is going to prosper happily, he will. Nothing outside ourselves ever creates our experience. Rather it is the choices we make from our deep beliefs that will make life be whatever it is. We learn to notice our results and circumstances with compassion and love. The idea of personal responsibility always inspires me. I know that if my consciousness created a result that is less than satisfying, then shifting my consciousness by changing my mind and heart, can change it into something I do want. Yes, it is my fault but I am not to blame.

So...What Do YOU Want To BE When YOU Grow Up?

" I began to have an idea of my life, not as the slow shaping of acievement to fit my preconceived purposes, but as the gradual discovery and growth of a purpose which I did not know." 
 -Joanna Field

As I began this week, I was gently reminded that there is a reason for all that has happened in the past. Yesterday's situations, circumstances and events form the very threads of our life tapestry.  And...as I look in the mirror, at least every morning for my setting of Intention for each day, the wonderful lines on my face mark the times that have passed in which I experienced joy and laughter, as well as, tears and sorrow.  You may have experienced that very awareness, too. Whether same events have scarred our soul or warmed and comfoted our heart, they all happened for a reason...a Purpose...and they helped to mold who we are today in each present moment.

We may often feel that the challenge is to discover not only "why" things happened...but, for "why" we are here in the first place, as well as, Now!  

Ask yourSelf: What is the meaning of my Life?  Only You know the answer to this very personal, private, and profound question.  From deep within...from within our Soul essence...we begin the search to understand all that has happened...all that is Now...and all that will BE.  For there surely is a Purpose to this sometimes insane and chaotic, as well as, magnificent and inspired life...for each and every one of us, both individually and collectively.

For me, making sense of the past in terms of the Purpose of events that have happened in my life brings comfort, closure, and, often time re-newed Purpose for me. Right now, I'm reflecting on matters of the heart...on Love.  Having kissed some toads...we have all done it...we are then able to recognize our prince or princess when he or she comes along.  Having been in business...or been employed for years, we come to identify and realize more and more what we want...or, perhaps, more importantly, what we don't want.  I have found this to be true with the kissing of toads, as well.  Having been stricken with life threatening and severe illness, we learn to appreciate and nurture Excellent health and well-Being!  Having lost someone we love, we learn to not let one day go by that we don't fail to let those we love and cherish how very much they mean to us...how much we appreciate them for who they are and all they do and BE!

There exists a method to the chaos in the Big Picture of Life.  Some of us call it Divine Order...while others refer to that method as fate.  Whatever you may choose, know that deep within your heart there is Truly a Purpose to your Life...and that all the places you have been have brought you to where you are this very day.  Also, although we may never think so at the time they are occurring and unfolding, often, our most painful experiences and expressions serve to form our character.

It is only by Blessing the past, that we fully allow ourSelf to Live fully in the present...and not merely in default mode.

Especially today, I invite you to answer the question, "What do I want to BE when I grow up?  Then...regardless of your age, situation or circumstance... go do IT!  Yes...follow your dreams!   Please Know that you will never regret listening to your heart!  However, trust and believe you will only wonder what would have...could have been when you neglect your heart's desires!  Of this, I AM certain!

To New Beginnings Together!

Are You Ready To Celebrate Life…and BE the Best that YOU can BE?

I NOW invite YOU to Celebrate LIFE…Let’s Talk …with Your 30 minute complimentary Consultation!

To Our Health, Well-BEING, and Empowerment Together!

Much Love & GOD’s Blessings!

Rhonda

"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."

-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

Rhonda Maria Farrah, MA, DRWA

The Wellness Institute International

949.527.1574

Licensed Teacher

The Art of Feminine Presence™

Author  of the Forthcoming Book

How To Forgive, Live & LOVE During The Process of Divorce...

A Journey In Healing & Transformation

rhonda@HelpMeRhondaNOW.com

www.TheWellnessInstitute.tv

   

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Kinship With All Life,Sunday Service

From this moment on, I will open my heart and mind to knowing I am prospered by a greater understanding that there is only One life- and all Life is my kin. And so it is.

So...What's Your Drug Of Choice?!

The best mind-altering drug is truth.  -Lily Tomblin

Such a realization that the power of the mind remains both controlled, and, yet, free-flowing...is rather breathtaking to ponder. That power I experienced and expressed this week...gratefully, to be able to influence my state of health and well-Being, as well as, happiness... beneficially... through my brain...the thoughts I was thinking. Our thoughts can create pain or joy, stress or calm, chaos or order...to name but a few elements that serve to manifest by what our brain is "thinking" and perceiving.  The habits, and patterns, internal, as well as, external, which we have built and expressed throughout our life are responsible for bringing us to where we are today...to how we think, and the way we treat others.

It has been said that, "It's hard to teach an old dog new tricks...just as it is, without question, impossible to change events from the past. The past is like a cancelled check.   So...if it's a challenge to change your ways...and even more difficult to rewrite history...your story of your past...then, what are we to do, as well as, BE, to Live a healthier and happier Life?

With that in mind...no pun intended...I invite You to consider that possibility of changing your perspective.  Change how you view both the past and the present...and commit to reframing your expectations of your future.  I invite You to change your story....by re-creating how You interpret events.  The brain has a remarkable capacity to process the information we provide it with.  For example, we can become Aware of and stop that negative, judgemental, and downright useless thoughts and information the very moment it shows up.  We have the Power to rid ourSelves of those thoughts that do not serve us...those thoughts that surely do not contribute to our well-Being and happiness...if we choose to.  We can choose words that are affirming, considerate and supportive about ourSelves, as well as, others.  Yes...we have that innate Power to choose to not use destructive (non-serving) thought patterns to process what is going on in our Lives. We have the Power to Respond to Life...rather than merely react to our situations and circumstances...all the while enhancing and empowering our Selves, and those we influence and surround.

Here are some "positive thinking" examples that, perhaps, we can all benefit from being reminded of...

• Use the word "can" and throw out the "can't".  It's much more empowering to focus on what You can do and BE!
• Eliminate those critical and unsupportive thoughts, words and actions towards others. BE kind and considerate, beginning with your thoughts, for such will serve you, as well as, others!
• Focus on what you can control...Your thoughts, behaviors, and actions...and forget about what is simply not in your control...those thoughts, behaviors and actions of others!

And while we are all at it...let's expand our Awareness and possibilities with Life-affirming thoughts that may challenge our present way of thinking.  Out in nature, running on the beach trail is high on my list for Life-affirmation.  How about stimulating our minds with new experiences...new places...new ideas, through books, classes and seminars?!  Never become complacent!  Keep growing...Keep learning...Keep changing!

In closing...Peace of Mind...and the Excellent health and well-Being which accompanies IT... is Yours as you gain new information, and adapt a perspective that considers new ways of Responding to Life's everyday happenings.  Remember...just as software improves with each generation, you can consistently improve how (and what) you think.  Remember, too...in matters of the Mind we are the programmer, and our software updates include and hold endless possibilities!

To New Beginnings Together!

Are You Ready To Celebrate Life…and BE the Best that YOU can BE?

I NOW invite YOU to Celebrate LIFE…Let’s Talk …with Your 30 minute complimentary Consultation!

To Our Health, Well-BEING, and Empowerment Together!

Much Love & GOD’s Blessings!

Rhonda

"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."

-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

Rhonda Maria Farrah, MA, DRWA

The Wellness Institute International

949.527.1574

Licensed Teacher

The Art of Feminine Presence™

Author  of the Forthcoming Book

How To Forgive, Live & LOVE During The Process of Divorce...

A Journey In Healing & Transformation

rhonda@HelpMeRhondaNOW.com

www.TheWellnessInstitute.tv

   

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Tibetan Healing Bowls, Sunday Evening

Dr. Dream provides each attendee a personal experience of the healing bowls.

Consciousness Creates Reality, Sunday Service

I know that each life, being and all of creation is the joyous expression of Universal Spirit! I delight in Creation. I enjoy Creation. I honor Creation. I care for all living Beings and expressions of Life! And so it is!

We Are a Thread in the Tapestry of Life

 

"Creation is the logical result of the outpush of Life into self-expression.  It is the coming forth of Spirit into manifestation.  The One encompasses and flows through All, spilling Itself into numberless forms, and personalities.  These forms and personalities, propelled by the Cosmic Urge which brings them into being, have, within themselves, an impulse planted by the Divine; and since the Divine is Limitless and Perfect, It must and ultimately will bring all creation into a state of perfect manifestation." Ernest Holmes, Science of Mind

Ernest Holmes  wrote these words long before physicists, biologists,  and others discussed that there is consciousness back of everything -- including space itself. The indigenous people around the world have had a clear understanding of our relationship to our environment. 

Chief Seattle is credited with saying:

"Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect."

This consciousness of unity is vastly different from the accepted ideas of the day (mid 1800's.) According to the Bible man was given dominion over all life. Most Christians assumed that being given dominion over the world and all its creatures meant that humans owned the land and could do whatever they wanted to it without any consequences. There were consequences and we are now learning to see life differently. When we know better we will do better.

When we see all other beings as a reflection of and connected to ourselves, our thoughts, feelings and actions reflect a respect for life including our own. This consciousness of oneness, leads to making better choices. When we make better choices, we become a blessing to ourselves and each other.

 

Newsflash: Peace Is The Ability of Letting Go...And Liking IT!

"If you do not find peace in yourself, you will never find it anywhere else."  - Paula A. Bendry

This has been a week of quieting the noise in my mind.  No wonder my Monday blog is being posted today, Wednesday.  A week of accepting mySelf...and my Life for what IT is.  A time of trusting more and worrying less.

And not only that...my agenda included comparing myself to no one, loving mySelf even more than usual, fearing nothing...not just fearing less.  Especially, this has been a week of forgiving the pain from the past for me...letting go, and allowing my losses to make me more human...more humbled if you will.  I AM grateful to reach this state of Being.  A place where few reside, and many seek.  That Wonderful place I call Peace of Mind!

Let's talk a little bit about Peace of Mind...that uncommon ability to deal with the world, our Life, as well as, everyone, everything everywhere with confidence and serenity.  When I AM in my Peace place, I identify and demonstrate a desire to accept...rather than control, less with the longing to hold on...and, more with the need to let go.  For when we do not resist, we begin to Trust that all things happen for a reason...whether or not we know it at the time or not.  For me, IT's realizing that there are no mistakes...only lessons to BE learned...and IT remains that my pain in times of loss that helps me not only to grow from the inside out...to do good works...for Self, as well as those who influence and surround us, and those whom we influence and surround.

Loss touches our lives at one time or another. True and deep loss...the kind that tears your insides open, is, many times, a necessary part of Life.  Loss, rarely, spares no one. Of this I AM certain.  Within the last 10 months, my mother made her Transition after a 5 year bout with brain cancer.  As my Faith saw me through my pain, as well as that of and for my family and loved ones, especially, my dad and siblings...I find mySelf experiencing and expressing pain and lessons...yet another opportunity to lean into my Faith...that GOD within me...through the process of divorce. That process especially invites me to demonstrate the Power of Forgiveness, Healing, and Transformation...as I call upon my Authentic Power from within...Spirit GOD to see me through to the next destination, as well as, the process of getting there. You see... Faith comforts while making room for Peace.

Finding Peace is the willingness and joyfulness of letting go of the need to hold on.  IT is that forgiving to allow forgetting...and Living in the Joy of the Moment, rather than in and with the pain of the past.  On this Journey that I have been so graciously placed on, Peace of Mind...The One Mind...that Infinite Mind of GOD...is the expression of coming to terms with all that I have been, all that I AM...and all that I will BE!

A sense of Peace comes over time, and is largely letting go of the past...surrendering Self to Live fully and Lovingly in the Present...with Faith in Self and GOD in...GOD as...and GOD all through us.  This process is multi-dimensional...embracing many aspects of Life through patience, commitment, Faith, and Love...ushering that state Truth...Real Peace.

NOW is the time to give yourSelf the greatest gift of all...The Peace of Mind to let go of the past, Live in the Present...and let tomorrow BE!

To New Beginnings Together!

Are You Ready To Celebrate Life…and BE the Best that YOU can BE?

I NOW invite YOU to Celebrate LIFE…Let’s Talk …with Your 30 minute complimentary Consultation!

To Our Health, Well-BEING, and Empowerment Together!

Much Love & GOD’s Blessings!

Rhonda

"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."

-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

Rhonda Maria Farrah, MA, DRWA

The Wellness Institute International

949.527.1574

Licensed Teacher

The Art of Feminine Presence™

Author  of the Forthcoming Book

How To Forgive, Live & LOVE During The Process of Divorce...

A Journey In Healing & Transformation

rhonda@HelpMeRhondaNOW.com

www.TheWellnessInstitute.tv

   

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You Cannot Disconnect From Life, Sunday Service

Today I see every person as part of the ONE. And so it is.

Spring Cleaning For The Soul...How We LIVE LIFE BIG!

"The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of nonessentials."  -Lin Yutang

Just as though it were time for Spring cleaning, we are called to "unclutter" our Life...that out with the old and in with the new, no matter what time of the year it may happen to be.  Unload that old baggage...that luggage with wheels for some...unfounded fears, and gnawing worries.  Get rid of old grudges and resentment, anger, jealousy, and that old hurt from the past that may be still hanging out in your life. the light-hearted mayJourney on...the hard-hearted need not enter.

Peace resides in a room with a Magnificent view in the warm, safe, quiet corners of your mind.  That view is of a Blissful and Joy-filled today...a Brilliant and Light-filled tomorrow, where the sky is the only limit.  All too often...it is a place where few reside, and that many seek.  Peace requires its own space...in a place that only open...uncluttered hearts can build.

With that said...I am brought right back to Rev Pattie Mercados invitation during our Service this past Sunday...What would I do if I were brave today? Would I align my thinking with the Divine...which would most certainly require me to "unclutter"...to remove from my proverbial plate...my Life...that which no longer serves me?  That "uncluttering"...that "de-cluttering" opens our door to our GODling Self...and not merely our earthing self...that means by which we connect with our Divinity, and accept the Goodness in every area of our Lives which is Truly ours!

Yet...there remains a place...a Purpose...for that "clutter"...that fought feeling of being "boxed-in", as Rev Pattie so aptly expressed as we experienced her Words.  For it is that "clutter", expressed as a box overflowing, that let's us Know that it is Truly time to expand our thinking to a Bigger playing field...training and transforming our own mind...our thoughts to Aspire to the Infinite Mind...GOD...that we are One with!

So...I invite You to make room for Infinite Mind...GOD...to allow that Kinship with All LIFE that we are...to claim our Good and our Blessings!

Here's some suggestions...those "Hows" that are GOD-given...

• Set aside time to BE...the thinking, the planning and the doing will emerge from there!
• Make Peace of Mind a Wonderous Journey, not and end in itself!
• Enjoy the Journey!
• Remember that Forgiveness cleans up lots of messes...Trust & Believe I Know!
• Make Peace with the past!  Joyfully release that past NOW!
• Count your Blessing today...for they are many!
• Savor each & every present moment...NOW!

I invite you to consider… Whether it be the cross you may be bearing, the "clutter" in your life, or that feeling of being "boxed-in"... such may be the opening to your awakening to a Life of Purpose… The Life that you Truly Desire!

To New Beginnings Together!

Are You Ready To Celebrate Life…and BE the Best that YOU can BE?

I NOW invite YOU to Celebrate LIFE…Let’s Talk …with Your 30 minute complimentary Consultation!

To Our Health, Well-BEING, and Empowerment Together!

Much Love & GOD’s Blessings!

Rhonda

"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."

-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

Rhonda Maria Farrah, MA, DRWA

The Wellness Institute International

949.527.1574

Licensed Teacher

The Art of Feminine Presence™

Author  of the Forthcoming Book

How To Forgive, Live & LOVE During The Process of Divorce...

A Journey In Healing & Transformation

rhonda@HelpMeRhondaNOW.com

www.TheWellnessInstitute.tv

   

 Speak Up, The World Is Listening

Place No Limit on Principle, Sunday Service

There is a Power for Good in the Universe, and I can use It! I use it every time I think! And so it is.

Where in the World is She?

I am preparing to fly to Costa Rica for my nephew's wedding. I am very excited and feel blessed and honored to officiate. This is the third nephew who has asked me to be part of the wedding party. Each one has been different. I love weddings. I love to be part of them. I believe the vows a couple makes to one another are sacred and one can always feel God's presence wherever there is Love.

My first experience, only a year into ministry, was my oldest nephew. I was asked to play piano for the wedding. (I guess that my ministerial consciousness had not fully blossomed.) I took my responsibilities very seriously. I have never practiced so much for anything! I think my rehearsal time was approximately 120 hours for a seven-minute gig plus prelude and postlude. 

The second wedding was a few years later and I was asked to participate jointly with the local minister. Both of those weddings had taken place in Saskatoon, Canada. 

This time, I was asked to officiate and I am thrilled. it has been such fun to envision my nephew and his fiance repeating their promises to each other in such an exquisite setting.When I talked to them about marriage, they both declared to be each other's best friend. I think this is a great place to start! their wedding invitation includes this quote from A.A. Milne's , Winnie the Pooh:

"'Well be friends forever, won't we, Pooh?'  asked Piglet"
"'Even longer,' Pooh answered." 

 Longer than forever is exactly the right length of time to commit to love one another; it is exactly how long we are all loved by the Divine Presence.

This will be my first trip to Costa Rica. I hear it is beautiful.The wedding will take place at the Dreams Las Mareas Resort. The pictures of the resort are spectacular! This is the first destination wedding in which I have participated. (I think that is ironic, since we LIVE in a destination spot!)

I am really going to take a vacation. So although I might peak at email or texts, I do not plan to be available. That does not mean I don't love you. I do!

I will see you all on the 10th of April.

Until then, please bless the happy couple Ryan John Mitchell Clark and his fiance, Anra Lee. They will be getting married on the beach overlooking the ocean at 4:00 PM on April 5, 2016.

Anra Lee and Ryan Clark