"I look within for my answers, trusting the Guidance of Love and the wisdom of Right Thinking." And So It Is!
No matter where you are on your spiritual journey, know that you are welcome here.
Sunday, October 29, 2017
'The Love that Lives Within' Sunday Service October 29th 2017
"I look within for my answers, trusting the Guidance of Love and the wisdom of Right Thinking." And So It Is!
Sunday, October 22, 2017
The Perfect Relationship, Sunday Service, October 22, 2017
"I live in the faith that there is a Presence and Power greater than I am that nurtures and supports me in ways I could not even imagine. I know that this Presence is All knowing and All Power and is Always right where I am." And So It Is!
Friday, October 20, 2017
FIVE SIMPLE AND ESSENTIAL STEPS TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT
FIVE SIMPLE AND
ESSENTIAL STEPS TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT
A former client sat in my office totally
overcome by his family conditions. I was aware that he was depending on me to
help him navigate through his despair and back to his sense of living his familiar,
satisfying life. I was also aware that recently I had also
allowed myself to get caught up in conditions and was not feeling particularly optimistic myself.
During the
past few weeks, there have been an unusually high number of events that seem to scream and demand that we react
in fear and/or anger to our conditions. There was a mass shooting in Las Vegas
that affected multiple families that I or my wife know personally, the hurricane that devasted Puerto Rico where my wife Yolanda has extended family and a friend whose family are in more danger than is reported by general news outlets, fierce and
destructive fires in Northern California that destroyed thousands of homes and
caused deaths while simultaneously right
here in Orange County fires destroyed a number of homes and caused mandatory
evacuations by people I know personally, plus there are continuous national news reports of threats
of war. And at the same time, people close to me were experiencing significant
health challenges. I acknowledge that I was struggling to stay centered in
Truth and not allow myself to become overwhelmed.
A Miracle Is Simply A
Willingness To Believe A Better Idea
I realized
that I had allowed myself to neglect my daily Spiritual Practices. I allowed
myself to feel too busy to start my day re-centering myself in Truth. Daily Spiritual Practices are
called daily practices for a reason.
Just because I did a lot of breathing
yesterday does not exempt me from the need to do daily breathing again today. Some things do not store well. As
always, whenever I neglect doing my daily practices daily , sooner or later I begin to feel controlled by conditions
instead of using what I know to shift my conditions. I suspect many others experience
this as well.
At times like this I am so grateful for this teaching and as I “snap
out of it” and resume using the knowledge and tools that I have learned, my experiences
change and everything improves. It has been truthfully said that when we change
how we think about conditions, conditions change.
I started
having an influx of clients who needed to know many of the exact same things about which I needed to remind myself. In addition,
I was fortunately the scheduled speaker at our Wednesday night service, “Wednesday Wisdom”. It is hosted and facilitated each week by Reverend Judee Chapman. The topic had been chosen months ago and was
titled “Five Simple Steps To Get What You Want”. It was the perfect refresher
of what I needed to remember.
Anytime we
want to bring a new experience into our lives there are five steps that must be
done. I used to teach four steps. I have recently re-discovered that there is a
another step. That new “first step” makes the whole process easier and more
effective.
Step 1. Shift Your Mood
1. Find something to read, watch, or listen to that can
shift you to a more optimistic mood. There are sites on the internet full of
inspiring stories. A good source is to search youtube for an inspiring America
has talent episode or Britain, Bulgaria, Slovakia etc has talent ( they are
everywhere). Many of these are so uplifting they warm your heart. Lately, I
have been listening to a youtube music video by Natalie Merchant called “Wonder”
It is from 1995 and is
just as relevant today.
Check it out. You will enjoy it. I placed a link at the end of this post. If you go there please remember to return here to read the other steps
Check it out. You will enjoy it. I placed a link at the end of this post. If you go there please remember to return here to read the other steps
Step 2. What Would You Love to Have In Your Life
2. Not just what you would like but what would you Love? Get as clear as you are able on what you want.?
Think of it this way. When you order
something online from Amazon or some other site you don’t type in “Just send me
something you think I would like.”
Instead, you are very precise on the name of the article, the code numbers
and color choices where applicable. Take the same approach to the new experience
you are desiring, whether it is improved finances, health, relationships or
work. You don’t have to wait until you have it perfect before moving on to step
3 but make it an ongoing project until you have it clear.
Step 3. Not Just a Wish. Wishes Are Weak – This Is Real
3. Make a firm decision that it is going to happen. This
is a step most people overlook. You probably never equated it with the differences
in your own successes when you did it and your unsuccessful wishes when you did
not. It is absolutely essential. It makes all the difference and you have
already proved it to yourself. Look back
on your life and examine the things you wanted to do, be, have, and that you
actually accomplished and experienced versus those that never materialized in
your life. You will probably notice that for the things that did arrive you
made a firm decision that you would succeed and then did whatever it took despite
any obstacles. For those things that never worked out your decision was hesitant
and your will to go forward crumbled as obstacles and difficulties appeared in
your conditions.
Step 4. Get Rid Of All Your REAL Obstacles
4. Identify every thought, idea and belief you have that
is incompatible with getting what it is that you want. For example sometimes
people tell me they want a new, good relationship. Later she/he says “all the good ones are taken”. Now we have a
physics problem. Those two ideas – having a new good relationship – and –all the
good ones are taken- cannot exist at the same time. One of them has to go.
Someone else might want more money and also hold unexamined beliefs that people
who have over a certain amount of money are bad, or that there is a nobleness about
suffering or simply that money is scarce and the amount that they want is
impossible. Therefore it is necessary to consistently examine your ideas and beliefs
(notice your self-talk). Every idea that is incongruent with getting what you
want needs to be identified and released. It’s an ongoing process even as you
move on to step 5.
Step 5. Acting Is Not Pretending
5. Act as if what you are wanting is already occurring. Many
people have heard “fake it ‘till you
make it”. That is not what I am talking about. I am talking about taking the action on the next
obvious step that you would take if you believed with absolute certainty (not
hoped) that what you want in your life is already taking form. For example
suppose someone told you that he/she knew for certain that he/she was going to
Europe this summer and that he/she had no idea how because there was no money available.
I would ask a simple question. I would ask
if he/she had a passport. If he/she didn’t I would know that he/she did not
really believe it. If someone knew for certain he/she was going to Europe
getting a passport is something that people do who know they are going on a
trip. If you had a house for sale, and you really intended to sell it you would
fix it up and get it ready for sale before a buyer showed up because that is
what people do who really intend to sell a house. Taking action that is
congruent with getting what you want because you have to be ready to receive it
when it arrives. If your sailboat is stuck in an area with no wind you might
pray for wind. If you don’t already have your sails up before the wind comes,
it will go right past you because you were treating prayer like a wish instead
of a certainty.
I recognize
that when I am trying to change my condition and I am in “struggle” mode, it
can be hard to do some of these steps. When that is the case then I suggest in addition
to all of the above that you take Steps 6 and 7. Step 6 is work with a Practitioner and Step 7
is develop a set of daily Spiritual Practices and do them daily.
The trick to effective
prayer is developing a level of trust in the prayer process that enables you to
move right along in the direction of your dreams. We call that opening our
consciousness. Sometimes we need to begin by praying for clarity and to
deepen our trust before we can budge those old beliefs. – Reverend Dr. Jane Claypool
Here is the link I promised to Natalie Merchant's youtube video "Wonder" in step one; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6zpYFAzhAZY. Notice the wonderful Guitar work by Jennifer Turner at a time (maybe still) that it was uncommon for a woman guitarist to be chosen as lead guitar. Although Natalie Merchant is great Jennifer Turner added so much to this whole album.
Posted by Rev. Bruce Fredenburg
Staff Minister; Science of Mind in Mental Health
In addition to being
an Ordained Minister with Centers for Spiritual Living Reverend Bruce is a Licensed Marriage and Family
Therapist, practicing in Laguna Hills, California since 1982. He is a Clinical
Member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, a Child
Specialist and Divorce Coach with Collaborative Divorce Solutions Orange County
a member of the International
Association of Collaborative Professionals and is a trained Mediator. Reverend Bruce is also a professional speaker who
brings wit and humor into everything he does He has served as a Staff Minister
with a focus on Science of Mind in Mental Health at CSLCV since 2003
Wednesday, October 18, 2017
Rev. Carla Schiratis' Lessons from Bali
They call Bali the Island of the Gods. It still seems surreal to me that I have
traveled there twice now, both times on a spiritual pilgrimage, with my
beautiful CSL family. This stunning island is part of Indonesia and believe it
or not there over 17,000 islands that are part of
Indonesia. The vastly predominate religion in all of Indonesia
is Islam, however Bali is an anomaly, where the island is about 90 percent
Hindus. As unique as Bali is to
Indonesia, so too is the Balinese form of Hinduism that is practiced on Bali.
The lessons begin with the knowledge that this was a people
and a land that suffered unthinkable oppression from the Dutch, the Japanese, and
The Coup, the Thirties September Group in 1965, leaving the island in tragic despair and bloodshed. Today, these loving people celebrate life,
probably to a degree that we may never understand. They teach us, “today is a day to be thankful
for, today is a day to give blessings to God, and today is a day that I will be
present, mindful, and in gratitude, regardless of the past events.”
Bali is a
land that is entranced in Spirit.
Everywhere you go, everywhere you look, you see “physical blessings” little
offerings to God, small baskets woven from coconut or palm leaves, which are
filled with flowers, rice, and incense. These offerings are at the front of
their homes, and their businesses, on the streets, in the temples, they are
everywhere. Visual blessings of gratitude
that are crafted with amazing skill and beauty. In fact, the word Bail in Sanskrit, (that was
the original Indian heritage) means “offerings.”
Everywhere you go, everywhere you look,
you see "physical blessings"
And there are water gardens and water bowls arranged with the
upmost care, featuring flowers arranged in stunning mosaic type patterns. Most
of the Balinese go daily to the temples to receive a blessing from the local
priests, leaving a veil of rice pressed to their
We visited several scared temples, which we participated in
the native blessing ceremonies, wearing their traditional garments. At the
temple of Shiva, which represents the destroyer, we set an intention on
receiving our blessings with the idea that which does not serve us and our
highest good would be released and destroyed.
At the
Ganesh Temple, or Bat Cave Temple, we accepted our blessing with the intention
to remove any obstacles that are keeping us from moving forward. And at the beautiful Tirtaganga Water Gardens
& Palace, we swam in the tranquil stone pools with the intention of
creating a cleansing baptism of our souls. Beautiful Bali, she fills me with the
lessons of release and rebirth.
We river rafted in the deep jungles, celebrated the beautiful
artist communities,
participated in chanting meditation, followed by Yoga, and an
inspiring spiritual message each morning. Bali, taught me to be even more
present, to pay attention, and relax into Spirits arms.
There were many more lessons from these loving people of Bali
then words can express, but I will leave you with this one. One morning my
travel companion, Rev. Janet and I decide to get up early and first thing go to
the claimed Monkey Forest. We walked
there quickly in anticipation of visiting this exotic place, taking care to purchase
a large bunch of bananas to feed the monkeys.
I was holding the bananas as we made our way to the entrance. Immediately, hungry monkeys from every corner
come running towards me, crazily, and I swear I saw them showing their little teeth. I being an animal lover, I actual had a pet
monkey as a kid, did what was only natural. I panicked, threw the bananas in
the air, and ran out. Janet being
annoyed by my sudden behavior, insisted we go back and buy more bananas. This time, she held the bananas, being careful
not to drop them. A woman working at the
entrance of the park offered to help Janet.
She showed her how to hold one banana above her head at a time and then the
monkey would climb up and grab it. Well
this went fine until Janet took the remaining bananas from the women and
proceed to feed them herself. Suddenly, a
huge monkey climbs up her leg and starts to grab the entire bunch of bananas. Janet reacted by quickly pulling the bananas
away from the him, and the monkey then proceeded to bite her on the leg,
because frankly, he was a little upset with her selfish behavior.
Lesson here: Nature is individualized, each with Its own set of laws not to be reckoned with. Or, maybe, the lesson was: the one with the most bananas wins!
Lesson here: Nature is individualized, each with Its own set of laws not to be reckoned with. Or, maybe, the lesson was: the one with the most bananas wins!
Dr. Heather is leading a trip to Bali in June of 2018 and you are invited to come along! Visit our website to learn more.
Sunday, October 15, 2017
Sunday, October 15, 2017, "Fear of Intimacy"
,br> I give myself fully to life, knowing that Spirit is always loving me, protecting me and guiding me to greater good. And So It Is!
Sunday, October 8, 2017
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