Real Security Comes From Within

One of our members, Kimberly Wooldridge, recently performed in a delightful play, Man From Earth. It was about man who had lived and adapted to all the changes on earth since the stone age approximately 14,000 years. The audience hears his story through conversation at a farewell party for him put on by his colleagues who were shocked that he would just walk away from the security of a tenured position..

Lights similar to my light show

On my path, I have stepped away from security a few times -- and it has always ended well. The first time I did so, I had been teaching at W.P. Wagner Secondary School for three years. I had 11 years of continuous service in that school system but I knew I wanted to study to become a minister of the Science of Mind. The ministerial course was being taught in Calgary, a city 180 miles away. Class was on a school night. For that class I joined the high school students racing out of the parking lot to get on the highway immediately. I got to the ministerial classroom with no more than 20 minutes to spare. We were dismissed from class at 10 PM and I got straight into my car for the long drive home. I was filled with visions of my future, excited beyond words. I asked God for a sign if I was on the right path. (I knew that there would be very little sleep that given my excitement and the time it would be when I crawled into bed, and the alarm that would ring at 5:30 so I could get back to school by 7:45 AM.) I was given a light show. There were northern lights from the outskirts of Calgary to the outskirts of Edmonton. Those dancing lights told me I was moving in the right direction.And I had been thrilled to hear that we would not be meeting again as a ministerial class until the autumn.

Later that same spring, I knew I needed to leave Edmonton and move to Calgary. I would have to give up tenure to do so. When I first traveled to Calgary to interview for a position, I was told that there were one thousand applications for English teachers and there were no jobs at all! I was disappointed but not dissuaded. I felt, deep in my heart, that the move was necessary and would be supported. The interviewer said that the only shortage of teachers was in special education. Something told me I could  do that. I applied and got an immediate interview.  Now here is my demonstration for keeping the faith, moving through the negativity and seeing my vision: within three weeks I had gone from being one of a thousand applicants with no jobs, to having a choice of three different positions! 

I knew I was on the right path for me. Still my friends and colleagues attempted to dissuade me from severing all ties with the school system.

When one has confidence in life, one can step away the forms of security that the world promises. There is a greater security.


The real security comes from knowing and remembering who you are.

Would You Be Your Valentine?!

So…Do YOU Love YourSelf…Would You Be Your Valentine?!

When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad, you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.  –Unknown

Loving YourSelf is the single most important principle…on this planet… in the creation process. If you don't love yourself, it is likely that you won't decide to give yourself the things you think you want.  Likely that you won't think you deserve them…and even more that you certainly won't have the energy to take action to create them. Of this I am certain!

When we were born, most of us were the center of the Universe. Remember?  Everything revolved around us and our welfare. And then around age 2, socialization took over and familial and societal rules demanded the giving up of Self.  Remember that… share the toy you want, don't ask for what you want, don't want. Good little girls and boys didn't do those things. Now we're adults screaming, "Why can't I create what I want?"  Hey…I know!

It's time to reclaim that little person inside that knew they were good enough, smart enough, brave enough, and special enough to ask for, and get, what they wanted. It's been so long that most of us have lost the art of even knowing how to ask for what we want. Take it from “Little Rhonda” (“lr”)…it’s time!

In my speaking engagements and seminars, often, when I ask for people to state the above, I get responses like… "I don't want to worry about money anymore," and "I don't want to be alone," or "I don't want this dis-ease, illness…this sickness." Nobody says what they want!! They tell me what they want by stating what they DON'T want. Wow…what’s that about???!!!

It doesn't tell me what anyone wants… it doesn't give me clear direction. That is what most of us are doing with the Universe, and the Universe is replying… "Hey…YOU…I don't understand the direction. Say What?  I can't deliver the performance…that which your Soul is requesting and craving!"

I say we all give ourselves permission to love ourselves enough to give us - and the Creative Force - a very clear statement of desire for manifestation…that is, Wellness, Freedom, Love, Bliss, Security, Peace, Grace & Happiness. I AM, and create, all  in my life because I create me as these experiences within first. Match THAT, Universe. And the Universe says, "Yes."

We all want money. Ask for it. We all want love and passion. Ask for it. We all want wellness and unlimited energy. Ask for it.  What are we waiting for?  Really!

The original meaning of the ancient Hebrew teaching "Ask and you receive" …was "Claim or Demand...and you receive." Well, I am stepping forward to claim and demand the attributes of freedom, love, etc. to perfectly match up with the money and passion I claim. Really!  Also… that all is good, in integrity, and unconditional love for all concerned… Especially  me. And I AM standing in my knowing that when I experience my own love and power, I give everyone the excitement, right and power to do the same.

And the Universe says "Yes," “Little Rhonda”. The Universe says - "YES…your wish is my command!"

While I invite my audiences to consider a number of avenues to loving…yes, truly loving Self…I will leave you with what I consider the essentials of same…Loving YourSelf!  They remain…

Treat others with love and respect. Bringing joy to other people's lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude. However, don't just be very kind to people so you can receive royal treatment

Learn to let go of past events. You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives/bad beginnings or moments. Don't close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though, forgive yourself.

Forgive yourself. Don't punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: “I forgive myself for _______.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself. Look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don't ever demean or ridicule yourself. If you do, laugh out loud, realizing that was then and this is now. Every day is a new beginning. If you did something you are not proud of, resolve to never do it again and take steps to keep it out of your mind.

Do what you love. What do you love to do? If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result you become happier and more loving. Do what you love. What do you love to do? If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result you become happier and more loving.  Ask YourSelf…What makes my tail wag?!

  

Treat yourself like treating your very best friend. How do you treat your very best friend? Do you treat him/her with love, kindness, trust, appreciation, acceptance, and respect? If you can give that to your friend, why don’t you give that to yourself? Practice treating yourself like you treat your very best friend by saying kind words to yourself. Stop calling yourself names. Stop beating yourself up. Give yourself compliments. Know your boundaries ( a BIG one for me) and listen deeply to your needs. Always be kind and gentle with yourself.

Nurture yourself. Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy with yourself. You can nurture yourself physically by exercising and consuming healthy food. You can nurture yourself emotionally by listening to love songs, painting, or helping others in need. As you give yourself to others and offer help, you receive the gift of love back. You feel good about yourself because you live your life on purpose. You can nurture yourself mentally by reading your favorite books. You can nurture your spiritually by doing meditation.

We spend so much time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching, yearning  for that special love. Feeling  empty and lost without it. Wanting someone to give us love and fill us up. Unfortunately, that’s not usually how life works. Loving yourself is mainly having self-respect which is the only dependable way to create love in your own life to share with others. When you expect love from an external source, and someone or something does not fulfill your void and fantasies, then you will feel worse than before. To be able to be loved, you must love and respect yourself as much as you do others. Understanding the effects of loving yourself will only enhance your ability to love others. By doing so, you are enabling positive energy and allowing for great situations to occur in your life. This guide will help. Never think that you're living your life for nothing.  Everyday,  there are people coming in and out of the world, so spend it wisely and respect yourself.

In order to love someone, you must love YourSelf!  Of this, I AM certain!

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Happy Valentine's Day!

To Our Health, Wealth & Empowerment Together!

With Love & Blessings!

Rhonda

"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."

-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself

Rhonda Maria Farrah, MA, DRWA

The Wellness Institute International

949.527.1574

Licensed Teacher

The Art of Feminine Presence™

Author  of the Forthcoming Book

How To Live & LOVE During The Process of Divorce...

A Journey In Healing & Transformation

rhonda@HelpMeRhondaNOW.com

www.TheWellnessInstitute.tv

   

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