So…Do YOU Love YourSelf…Would You Be Your Valentine?!
Loving
YourSelf is the single most important principle…on this planet… in the creation
process. If you don't love yourself, it is likely that you won't decide to give
yourself the things you think you want.
Likely that you won't think you deserve them…and even more that you certainly
won't have the energy to take action to create them. Of this I am certain!
When we were
born, most of us were the center of the Universe. Remember? Everything revolved around us and our
welfare. And then around age 2, socialization took over and familial and
societal rules demanded the giving up of Self.
Remember that… share the toy you want, don't ask for what you want,
don't want. Good little girls and boys didn't do those things. Now we're adults
screaming, "Why can't I create what I want?" Hey…I know!
It's time to
reclaim that little person inside that knew they were good enough, smart
enough, brave enough, and special enough to ask for, and get, what they wanted.
It's been so long that most of us have lost the art of even knowing how to ask
for what we want. Take it from “Little Rhonda” (“lr”)…it’s time!
In my speaking
engagements and seminars, often, when I ask for people to state the above, I
get responses like… "I don't want to worry about money anymore," and
"I don't want to be alone," or "I don't want this dis-ease,
illness…this sickness." Nobody says what they want!! They tell me what
they want by stating what they DON'T want. Wow…what’s that about???!!!
It doesn't
tell me what anyone wants… it doesn't give me clear direction. That is what
most of us are doing with the Universe, and the Universe is replying… "Hey…YOU…I
don't understand the direction. Say What?
I can't deliver the performance…that which your Soul is requesting and
craving!"
I say we all
give ourselves permission to love ourselves enough to give us - and the
Creative Force - a very clear statement of desire for manifestation…that is, Wellness,
Freedom, Love, Bliss, Security, Peace, Grace & Happiness. I AM, and create,
all in my life because I create me as
these experiences within first. Match THAT, Universe. And the Universe says,
"Yes."
We all want
money. Ask for it. We all want love and passion. Ask for it. We all want
wellness and unlimited energy. Ask for it.
What are we waiting for? Really!
The original
meaning of the ancient Hebrew teaching "Ask and you receive" …was
"Claim or Demand...and you receive." Well, I am stepping forward to
claim and demand the attributes of freedom, love, etc. to perfectly match up
with the money and passion I claim. Really!
Also… that all is good, in integrity, and unconditional love for all
concerned… Especially me. And I AM
standing in my knowing that when I experience my own love and power, I give
everyone the excitement, right and power to do the same.
And the
Universe says "Yes," “Little Rhonda”. The Universe says - "YES…your
wish is my command!"
While I
invite my audiences to consider a number of avenues to loving…yes, truly loving
Self…I will leave you with what I consider the essentials of same…Loving
YourSelf! They remain…
Treat others with love and
respect. Bringing joy to other people's lives will help
you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely
repay you with the same kindness. Gradually you will start to feel your worth
through the smiles of gratitude. However, don't just be very kind to people so
you can receive royal treatment
Learn to let
go of past events. You deserve a fresh beginning! There
are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives/bad beginnings or
moments. Don't close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future
ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish
what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown
from them. Forgive those who have done you wrong. Most importantly, though,
forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself.
Don't punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at
the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: “I forgive myself
for _______.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself. Look
yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don't ever
demean or ridicule yourself. If you do, laugh out loud, realizing that was then
and this is now. Every day is a new beginning. If you did something you are not
proud of, resolve to never do it again and take steps to keep it out of your
mind.
Do what you love. What do you love to do? If
you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will
experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly
connect with your authentic self. As a result you become happier and more
loving. Do what you love. What do you love to do? If you could find
something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience
love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with
your authentic self. As a result you become happier and more loving. Ask
YourSelf…What makes my tail wag?!
Treat yourself like treating your very
best friend. How do you treat your very best friend? Do you treat
him/her with love, kindness, trust, appreciation, acceptance, and respect? If
you can give that to your friend, why don’t you give that to yourself? Practice
treating yourself like you treat your very best friend by saying kind words to
yourself. Stop calling yourself names. Stop beating yourself up. Give yourself
compliments. Know your boundaries ( a BIG one for me) and listen deeply to your
needs. Always be kind and gentle with yourself.
Nurture
yourself. Self care is very important. Set up some time to be by
yourself, just by yourself. Do something that gives you peace, love, and joy
with yourself. You can nurture yourself physically by exercising and consuming
healthy food. You can nurture yourself emotionally by listening to love songs,
painting, or helping others in need. As you give yourself to others and offer
help, you receive the gift of love back. You feel good about yourself because
you live your life on purpose. You can nurture yourself mentally by reading your
favorite books. You can nurture your spiritually by doing meditation.
We
spend so much time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching,
yearning for that special love. Feeling empty and lost without it. Wanting someone to
give us love and fill us up. Unfortunately, that’s not usually how life works.
Loving yourself is mainly having self-respect which is the only dependable way
to create love in your own life to share with others. When you expect love from
an external source, and someone or something does not fulfill your void and
fantasies, then you will feel worse than before. To be able to be loved, you
must love and respect yourself as much as you do others. Understanding the
effects of loving yourself will only enhance your ability to love others. By
doing so, you are enabling positive energy and allowing for great situations to
occur in your life. This guide will help. Never think that you're living your
life for nothing. Everyday, there are people coming in and out of the
world, so spend it wisely and respect yourself.
In
order to love someone, you must love YourSelf!
Of this, I AM certain!
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Happy Valentine's Day!
To Our Health, Wealth & Empowerment Together!
With Love
& Blessings!
Rhonda
"There is a mighty Power within you. There is that Spirit of
Life, Light, and Love. The more you feast on these ideas and fast from old
corrosive ones, the closer you experience the Life you desire."
-Frank Richelieu, The Art of Being Yourself
Rhonda Maria Farrah, MA, DRWA
The Wellness Institute International
949.527.1574
Licensed Teacher
The Art of Feminine Presence™
Author of the Forthcoming Book
How To Live & LOVE During The Process of Divorce...
A Journey In Healing & Transformation
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World Is Listening!
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